A friend recently posted a sad quote about losing one of her best friends. She seemed really bummed about it. I totally understood her. See,the thing with friendships is that you always think that they will last forever. Especially those deep friendships that are start and touch you to the deepest parts of your soul? The ones that make you comfortable and you feel like you are home when you are with them. The kind of friendships that are 191%. The ride or die kind.
I was her a few years ago. I lost my best friend. No,she didn’t die. I just lost her. One minute she was there,the next she wasn’t. The worst thing about it was that it was not gradual. It didn’t happen over time.We just stopped talking. I think that is what hurt me the most. The thing that still hurts even now….years later. You never get over it. You think losing a lover is painful. Try losing a friend!
For the longest time,I blamed her. I said it was her who was on the wrong. Kept on thinking that it should have been her who should have reached out first. What I never sat down to think was,maybe she too was thinking the same thing. Maybe she too was sad. Maybe she too wanted to reach out first,but she didn’t know how, or her pride was bigger. Maybe she too felt the loss just like I did. What I failed to realise then was that it usually takes two to tango. I must have done something too…contributed somehow to the fall out.
She was the closest person to me,and not having that anymore broke my heart into pieces. It really did. But the years went by,and we grew and moved on. Yeah,we reconnected again. But it had changed. We weren’t the same people. We weren’t in the same space anymore. As much it hurt,it was fine. I didn’t understand then,but I came to later on.
Not everybody is meant to be in your life forever. Not all friendships are meant to last forever. Some you meet are just in your life for a goodtime, and others you meet who will be there for a lifetime. Such is life. That’s what I told my my friend.
Don’t be so sad that you forget all the good times you had. Don’t forget that this person came into your life at that particular time when you needed them the most. Don’t forget the good memories,or even the bad. Some were simply lessons. Don’t forget the good. And be thankful for the fact that in this life you met a person that you experienced a wonderful something with.